I suspect that living 24/7 in workout attire is the clothing version of the messy topknot. We all know that your hair is dirty, or too long, or too frizzy, or your roots have grown out, but we are all going to accept it as fabulous because that’s the deal. Mary H.K. Choi Read Quote
The notion of this ’emergency contact’ is, Do you have someone who is holding you down? Do you know where to go if you’re feeling bad? I keep likening it to assigning yourself a godparent of your choosing. Mary H.K. Choi Read Quote
Texting is incredibly anxiety-laden, but I know people who will have a full-blown panic attack if you call them. I’m one of those nightmare humans where the little mailbox has an ellipsis on it because I have 1000 unread emails. So texting is the most immediate yet least anxious of all the incredibly anxious ways that we talk to each other. Mary H.K. Choi Read Quote
There is so much focus on being self-sufficient, and it makes it very difficult to ask for things. I’ve been crippled by this notion of high-functioning self-sufficiency. And I see it a lot in younger girls. Asking for help brings people closer in a way that I suspected but didn’t actually put into practice. Mary H.K. Choi Read Quote
I have a lot of respect for people who write a whole book because I’ve heard it will kill you. Mary H.K. Choi Read Quote
The thing that I find interesting about teens now is that no matter how desperate we seem to be taxonomically ‘othering’ them, for one reason or another – because the Internet, because whatever – I feel like a lot of the benchmarks and the experiences are, you know, same for teens through time immemorial. Mary H.K. Choi Read Quote
Your mom is the first person you fall in love with, so it’s loaded forever and carries all this baggage. There’s almost always a communication barrier in place. In my case it’s a language and cultural barrier, but other times, it’s because your mother’s love is conditional or because you’re fundamentally different. Mary H.K. Choi Read Quote
