People who attack others need rationalizations for doing so. We undermine those rationalizations. Barbara Deming Read Quote
To resort to power one need not be violent, and to speak to conscience one need not be meek. The most effective action both resorts to power and engages conscience. Barbara Deming Read Quote
Nonviolent action does not have to get others to be nice. It can in effect force them to consult their consciences. Barbara Deming Read Quote
We learn best to listen to our own voices if we are listening at the same time to other women – whose stories, for all our differences, turn out, if we listen well, to be our stories also. Barbara Deming Read Quote
We believe, in fact, that the one act of respect has little force unless matched by the other – in balance with it… The acting out of that dual respect I would name as precisely the source of our power. Barbara Deming Read Quote
This is the heart of my argument: We can put more pressure on the antagonist for whom we show human concern. Barbara Deming Read Quote
Think first of the action that is right to take, think later about coping with one’s fears. Barbara Deming Read Quote
The point is to change one’s life. The point is not to give some vent to the emotions that have been destroying one; the point is so to act that one can master them now. Barbara Deming Read Quote
The injunction that we should love our neighbors as ourselves means to us equally that we should love ourselves as we love our neighbors. Barbara Deming Read Quote
